Giving The Game Away part 3: Staying In the Winners Circle

So gentlemen, here we are at part three of The Epic Series Giving the Game Away, if you are new to my blog or just want to be caught up you can check out parts one and two at your leisure. Now, I hope that everyone has been having a successful time applying the lessons to your personal life, and I am going to assume that while we are still in the first quarter of 2012 everyone has seen an increase in positive interactions with whomever it is you are trying to get it in with. So while we are on the upside of things I am going to hit you with some continuing education.   See, the whole purpose is to win and winning just demonstrates that you are better than everyone else on this day and after you become the king of the hill, you got to keep everyone else down there at the bottom looking up at you and saying, “there goes the man right there”

In my short time on this earth, I have heard countless women talk about how they want more spontaneity and excitement in their relationships, when you translate it into real English what women are saying is that they want something different.  Now if you have been in a relationship for a hot minute, things tend to go like clockwork and that isn’t a bad thing, but if you already have your lady on a schedule of some type then you have done half the work. All you need to do now is just need to throw something different in there every now and again and BOOM!

there goes the man right there

You are Just the COCK Of The WALK!(in my Ric Flair voice)

What to do different? See this is where men will fail, in an effort to be different you will end up doing the same thing or quite possibly falling into an argument with your lady over the subject because while they can tell you what they don’t want to do, but not offer up any suggestions themselves about what they do want to do, the frustrations will send you back into the comfort zone that they always say they want to shake up.

First off, let’s talk about spontaneity which comes from the word spontaneous which basically means unpremeditated. Now that is what they say, but under that definition when a woman says they want something spontaneous you could just yell at their face for 15 minutes and call it a night. 

True Story.

In reality, they want something different and the easiest thing a guy can do is do something that they are already into and that you aren't.  Seriously, if your girl is into yoga go check out a class, if she is into art find a paint and sip jump off and surprise her with that. Hell all you have to do is whatever it is she does when you are not around with her once or twice every now and again.


EASY!

this is where we are going

Psych!!! Get you some Soft Serve!

Now all of that leads you right into the whole excitement part. That’s just more of that daytime tv, articles written by women to modify mens behavior, jive that at the end of it all means nothing. The only thing you need to do to create this “excitement” is to do something that you all wouldn’t do in the first place. Better yet, changing plans on the fly to some degree to demonstrate that you are willing to go with the flow. Now when I say to some degree, I don’t mean telling her we are going to Pappadeaux and then take them to Zesto, but something along the lines of on the way to where ever we are going, let’s stop here and have a drink or something like that. See, when you start adding variables to an evening that you have already planned it can turn in to a full on ADVENTURE, and what makes an adventure and adventure is the fact that you don’t have a plan.

Remember, you have already won if you think about it; you just have to defend your title and maintain that “Champion” status, and that’s the game right there.